Dota 2 is a hard game to learn and an even harder game to master. It takes a lot of time, effort, and devotion to conquer. Plus, the very nature of Valve’s long-standing MOBA, which revolves around long, drawn-out matches that can be won or lost at any point based on crucial decisions and mistakes, adds to that.

Because of that, long-term players often joke about how the game can ruin relationships, and how people can become addicted. The commitment Dota 2 demands overtake all else, they say. But as one player learned, it can really happen.

They shared a story about how they introduced their girlfriend to Dota 2, only for her to become addicted. Now, most of their conversations are about the game and the grind, and while it was fun for a while, it has taken a toll on their relationship.

“Guys, if you truly love someone, never introduce them to Dota,” they said.

The post sparked a debate spanning hundreds of comments, with other players sharing their experiences of being addicted to it.

“Game addiction is a real thing that she’s showing all the signs of,” said one player. “I love this game, but it swallowed 3,000 hours of my life and it gave me absolutely nothing back. If you’re noticing it’s bad then it’s bad. There are a million better things to spend time on, get out before it eats more of your life.”